What's the difference?

Do u always need a guy to be ur best friend, who will make u happy, who will make u feel comfortable around him, who u think will understand u better ( or u understand him better than anyone? )?? Why is there such differentiation between ur so-called best friends who are girls and ur best-friends who are boys?

When that guy who u claimed to be ur best friend broke ur heart to pieces, u need ur girl friends to complaint n cry. When they want to cheer u up, u refuse to cheer urself, refuse to go out with them. But, will happily go out with that same guy who broke ur heart that very moment bcos he is still ur best friend and u will be happy with him leaving behind those who were there for u when u needed a shoulder to cry on... Why? Why not for once teach him a lesson? Why giving him the impression that u r not ok without him around? Why giving him an opportunity to think u r dependent on him? Why do u have to go out with him, then come back n cry again cos its a de javu?! Memories?! And then cry thinking things are not going to be same anymore???

GIRLS!!! What's got into ur mind? What's wrong going out with that poor girlfriends of urs who are trying to pull u out of the pain? What's wrong in putting some effort to response to those who sincerely want u to be happy, independent and prove to those guys that they are all WRONG?!?! What's wrong in appreciating those who are with u during ur difficult time?

I know u need time to sort things out when u r heart broken.. Then take the time. Involve in activities which will divert u. Why would u want to do things which will delay the healing of the old "wound"? Grow up, ladies!!

If YOU want to change, u can make a difference. If u want to cuddle up in that old memories expecting that everything will come back to normal when u know it wont, that is pure foolishness!! You can cherish the good old memories and try making new ones with the ones u have with u. The only person who can help u is YOU! Others can only feed u, but u r the one who have to chew and swallow. Don't lose the ones u have thinking abt the ones who have left!!

Blame?

You are what u think you are. No one make yourself. You decide who you want to be. When someone is out of their path or in a wrong path in their life, automatically the blame goes to the parents. Everyone will blame the parents that they are irresponsible in raising the child. Of course, the parents are responsible to mould the child since young as they are considered a white clean cloth then. Even then, parents can only guide. They will teach what u need in life and make sure u practice them while u are with them. We as a kid, will just follow. But all these will only last up to certain age when we start asking why for each and everything we are doing and will be thinking why not for something we aren't doing. That's called curiosity. There is a saying says. "Curiosity kills a cat". We are curious about everything new and want to try. That's when everything start changing.. We will decide what to do and what not to do. If what you are doing is right for you, you will continue doing or else you stop that and either you just continue other things which you were doing earlier or to substitute the stopped activity you start doing something which you aren't doing but u think it's right to do. So, u see from that point where we start thinking why and why not we start deciding our lives. So, how we want our lives to be is in our hands now. That's why, I said earlier what u think is what you are. If u think you want to excel in music studies, u will find a way and work hard towards it. Where there is a will, there is a way. Now, parents can only show you how. Whether u want to follow that or not, it is up to u. so, there's no point blaming everyone for our own failures in life. If there's someone you want to blame, that is YOU!!!

Awesome 4 days of my Bali Life!

Since I came to Bali to further my studies, I noticed that I've changed but I don't know in which way I've changed. One obvious thing is, I am not myself at all.. When I look at myself in the mirror I see some stranger with my face, not myself. Every time I go back home, I am myself but the moment I step my foot in this island I don't know what will posses me but I don't recognize myself anymore.. Why?? Yes, even I wonder why..

But, last week I found myself while in Bali.. Yes!!! I did.. When my dearie came down for a vacation in this island.. I breathed fresh air.. The 4 days I spent with her was HEAVEN! We did what we like, what we used to do not bothered what will others think.. I talked normally, I talked my mind. I no need to think 1000 times before spilling even a word out so that it won't be a "wrong rumors going around Bali." Right now, I feel my vocabulary is limited to describe my feelings. It was an awesome feeling.. Both of us miss another soul in msia who couldn't make it here. Though we had fun, I make use of every moment I was with her. I wish I could be like that everyday now... Unfortunately, the stranger inside me came back alive as soon as she left.. What should I do... Hmm, I'm waiting to go back hopefully for Raya.. I'm so eager to welcome the new comer into the family with both my besties.. God, bless me to clear the papers and go back for raya either b4 or after yudisium.. Pleaseeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Education...

School, teachers, textbooks, tuitions, exams and A grades!!!!! These are the things which will ring the bell in your head if we talk about education. But is this the true definition of it? I doubt it is... Educating one doesn't mean that the person have to know every single word in the book! It means, learn to live; to survive, which includes the 'so called' definition I mentioned above!

These days, parents are actually expecting their kids to strike straight A's in their subjects regardless of their interests. I find it very unfair. Every person has their own talent and interest. Some will be interested in seeking knowledge; some will say, I cannot sit and study...I want to play always, interested in sports; some will say, my sole interest is music. Another huge group of people will say, I'm good at plumbing or wiring or carpentering and some work which need some skills apart from text book notes!! So, we cannot force someone who is interested in skill works to study medicine can we? That person will fail not only as a doctor but in his life too!! So, why the parents have to spoil the child's life by forcing things that they want him to do? Instead ask and allow him to do what he desires to do, so that he will excel in his life.. Parents should find out the kid's interest to guide him.

Apart from that, they should mold his character and teach him to be in his best attitude. The individual itself have to learn few things. For example, to survive with what is available; to control the emotions; to know how to bring own self and to act according to the situation; where to talk what and to who, etc.. These lessons from parents and own experiences which will never be taught in any schools are also called education.. Experience is a very good teacher!!

Me, Mine, MYSELF!!!

Humans are created to take care of each other. As we know, living things and non-living things are dependent on each other. The same things goes for us, we are dependent among ourselves no matter how independent u are.. But why there are so many selfish people wondering among us? Hmm, i always wonder...

I just don't get the purpose of being very kiasu. A wise man said, "Sharing is Caring". Looks like we despise the purpose of our creation(I'm sorry if the word "purpose" doesn't fit there, i cant think of the word it suppose to be). Instead of helping others, this few kiasu people keep everything for themselves with "Me, Mine and MYSELF" attitude.

Very simple.. what do a small boy lose if he passes the teacher's msg to his classmate? What do a primary school kid lose if he share a textbook to the friend sitting next to him? What do a high school student gain by not sharing some important information about their exam?? Nothing...absolutely nothing to gain! So, why not share and help others?

I'm not asking to share everything till there's nothing left for ourselves. If something that's going to benefit you and you know that your friend's going to benefit from that too..why not help them? We might think, "ahh, its a useless matter." But it might be a very helpful matter for others. We never know...

So, be a person with humanity.. No need to be very very kind but at the same time don't be very very selfish!! Be a normal HUMAN BEING!